DETOX

Detox!!!

 

Detoxing is all I can focus on right now. Out with the “OLD” and “IN” with the new!!!

I have done numerous detoxes over the years.I have done them one organ at a time like a liver cleanse, a kidney cleanse and of course colon cleanses…I have never done them for a whole month with easy to follow recipes, until now.

I found this company called Green Smoothie Girl and she developed a 26 day cleansing of all organs. I watched the videos on how detoxing can be good for health and decided to do one with my new husband. I am actually kind of making him do it with me, as it is easier to do with a buddy. 

For those of you who have not done any cleansing, I would recommend getting up out of your comfort zone and learning about them. Some are harsh and you are just down right miserable the whole time counting seconds until you can go back to eating the same. I have done enough over the years along with high colonics to know what a wonderful feeling it is to be cleaned out from the inside. I have left the colonic place vowing to never let junk food into my cleaned up body again. What happens? Time and slowly forgetting that clean, light feeling.

Well, I am back! I am reading up on how great cleansing and detoxing is and I am ready to take on the new challenge. I am on a trip and so excited that I decided to take out some of the bad foods that won't be allowed anyways on the cleanse like coffee, dairy, sugar, salt and animal flesh. I have been drinking teas to help get things moving like Smooth Move and found that I got a "jump" on the cleanse. Water weight is coming off and I feel better already!

I will keep you up to date when I start, which I hope is New Years Eve and how I feel so you can learn and possibly get excited to change your health also.

 

Inauguration Ball Preparation

Inaugural Ball Preparation

 

I was never good at making costumes. My sons used to look at me at Halloween and wonder why I couldn't be like the other mom’s, creating amazing Halloween costumes. What can I say? It isn't one of my strengths. Sooooo, I have the inaugural Ball coming up this weekend and it isn't a traditional Black Tie event. This one STRONGLY suggests a Great Gatsby theme! Flapper dresses! AAHHHH!!!

 

I have been racing my brain for weeks now coming up with the “flapper look”. I started with the dress and found one online that is current but it has tons of fringe along the bottom. One of my fears was that I would find an old dress in a consignment store and that it would fall apart during the dancing right there on the dance floor. So I went safe and got a cute dress that i got approved by all my friends. The fringe at the bottom is the only thing that ties it to a Gatsby theme so far so I had to dress it up. 

 

I called a designer friend of mine and we went down to the bead district (who knew they had such an area).  We were looking for a headband and necklace. After going into 6 stores in a 2 block radius, we settled on a small tiara instead of the headband and then found a long set of fake pearls. The pearls reach to my belly button. Somehow leaving the bead area, we went into a Zara store and while looking for current treasures (there was a big sale at 70% off) I found a beaded purse that looked “Gatsby-ish”. It was perfect!

 

So, I felt good with my finds and started to relax. This was 10 days ago. I should have gotten to the shoes right away. My thoughts were that this ball will be so crowded, that the top part of my costume would be seen more than my shoes. I did look in stores 10 days ago for shoes that would work but didn't find anything so I turned to the web. I found some at DSW of all places, with a round toe and a strap on the top of the foot and I ordered them. They are still not here!!! I am having to go to plan B. Since I leave on a train tomorrow down to DC, I am going through my closet to see if any will work that are even close. I have a cute tan pump with a peak toe and rounded front that will work. I don't want to buy a pair of ugly shoes that I will never wear again as there isn't much space in my New York City closet for them anyways!

 

I am banking on the thought that while people will take the suggestion of the Great Gatsby look, they can’t go too overboard, right? I also know that I am not going to have a limo whisk me right to the front door because of security so I need to have a shoe I can walk in for some distance!

 

Today is the day to research the hair and make up and go get a manicure and pedicure. I am going for the nude colored nail polish and researching the lipstick color. I am packing a curling iron and lots of hair spray and bobby pins to get my hair out of the way for the tiara. No one had long, blond hair flowing back then, so it is going

Wish me luck on my “costume". I think I will enjoy the event and hope that I will fit in while not looking too strange.

Stand Your Ground

Stand Your Ground

When I first moved to NYC at eighteen, I had come from a small town and a quiet family that didn't argue much. Coming from a small town, I didn't know the meaning of fighting for space. Growing up with no conflict in my home, I didn't learn to stand up for myself the way other people had to, coming from either a bigger family in a smaller house or a family that loves to argue. Yes, there are families that love and thrive on arguing!

 

I was timid to say the least moving from my little hometown to the big city. I was also timid jumping into a new business that I didn't understand. My only photos taken of me growing up were simple ones where I didn't even know that I should be doing certain things to make the photo look better. I had also not really worn make up and I had long, straight hair that I left alone. 

 

When I started working as a model in New York City I found that I stayed quiet a lot and just watched and learned from the experts in my business. I slowly learned what to do in front of the camera and how to put on my make up and do my hair and I became more confident. When I would hit the streets to either go on a casting or a new job, I found that I was always letting other people go by on the sidewalk and stepping aside anywhere else there were people fighting for space.

 

Years have gone by since then and I find myself back in New York City. I am back to stepping aside for others thinking I am being polite. No one seems to care. I find that I have to tell myself that I have a right to my space on the sidewalk and that I don't have to step aside or dip my shoulder in order not to hit someone. I have found that when I stand my ground, at the last minute people make way for me. It is a struggle though as my tendency is to not fight but to give way. I am finding it empowering to keep my course on the sidewalk and to not make the effort to give others more space.

 

You may come from being raised differently than me. Maybe you don't get the stepping aside thing. I find that some people don't even know or care that I let them go first. They expect it!

So, as a Christian woman, what is the right thing to do? My struggle is feeling that I am good enough. I always seems to come down to that. I have to tell myself that I don’t have to step aside for others but that if I chose to, then I am doing it for me, so that I feel better as a person. Who knows, maybe being polite will pay off!

Happy and Single at Christmas

Coming out of Christmas Happy!

Christmas ended up being different this year after being divorced for the last 3 years. I came back to the town I last lived in while married and raising the kids. I have moved around to different cities to live in the last 38 years since I left my parents house to move to New York City to model, so I didn't have solid traditions. Once I got married though, at 25, I always had my husband or kids with me to take care of and celebrate Christmas with. 

This year, everything was different as I was single with no husband and grown children with lives of their own. It was hard to come back to a place with so many memories, especially at Christmas time. I wanted to be with family though and 2 of my 3 sons were here as well as my sister and my parents. I have been divorced for 3 years and this is the first Christmas that I have been strong enough to come back to all the memories.

If you have not been through divorce you may not understand what I am talking about but to all of us who are trying to rebuild a life after divorce, coming back can be difficult. To "get though" Christmas, I found that I had to prepare to be alone for some of it and not really have any expectations as I knew I didn't want to be disappointed. I was trying to guard my emotions.

I came down for a week and ended up staying at 3 separate friends houses. Focusing on that right there makes me so grateful and blessed that I had those options opened and friends who cared enough to see me  even though I moved away and our friendships changed.

I tried to see my sons as much as I could and work around them and their schedules this past week. I recognized that I raised them to be independent and if they were busy, I chose to feel confident that I raised happy, healthy kids who had a life instead of feeling neglected by them. I want them to have their own lives. I didn't want to put pressure on them just because I was down for a visit. And it was Christmas. It ended up working out really well and I had a great time with both of them.

Christmas can be such a tough time for so many. I learned to enjoy each moment and situation as it comes. To tried to make plans to see people but also to understand when schedules change. It is a matter of being comfortable with yourself no matter what and to focus on the real reason for Christmas. It isn't delivering presents or getting them as much as it is celebrating the birth of Jesus and the love of family whatever the situation. I hope you had a wonderful Christmas also.